Here are my 5 lessons from a year of letting go. I am in awe of the amazing feedback from my last post and newsletter, Confessions of 2015. I hope they assist you dear love leader in finding your truth in 2016 and leading a life you love so you too can lead others!
1. I’m Fuckin’ Perfect
I have spent the last couple of years speaking about Perfectionism and how to stop trying to be so perfect. How perfectionism is holding us back and to REVOLT against the “shoulds”. I even have a client who claims to be a “recovering perfectionist”. I was a perfectionist in my past.
I wanted to appear PERFECT so that I would be LOVED and not judged or rejected. I wanted the world to believe that I had it ALL together. Even when I was homeless 7 years ago and I hid it. Even when I began to have eating disorders AGAIN as I was competing in fitness competitions. PERFECT = LOVED
THEN I revolted against perfectionism. I showed my vulnerability and I showed my true feelings. I spent years giving the finger to being perfect.
What I realized in 2015 is that I am already perfect right now and so are YOU! You already have every answer inside you, you know enough, you’re smart enough
Don’t ever feel like you are less than Fuckin’ Perfect. You are to me. There are critics everywhere don’t be one, quit being MEAN to yourself. We all have these inner gremlins in our head. What you will realize is you are NOT your thoughts. Your life may seem crazy, unorganized, overwhelmed or calm and peaceful. It is perfect right now as you are. You are supported.
2. The universe will get your attention ONE WAY or ANOTHER
We’ve all made a wrong turn once or twice. Those turns are messages. Messages from the universe. How many times have you received a message or “bump” from the universe and ignored it?
I have spent the last 10 months traveling the US speaking, exploring and creating adventure as I evolved my business, consciousness and life. Recently on a trip I have a “bump” from the universe.
I was at my 6th airport in just about as many days. I decided to stop and grab a bottled water from the the newsstand after I gathered my belongings from TSA. I then proceeded to the bar at the restaurant closest to my gate. I could see my gate and I could order food for my flight (and have a craft beer). My flight was boarding in less than 10 minutes when suddenly I was hit by a man driving a large moving cart.
I had a choice at this point be angry that I was nearly ran over by a man on a cart or smile and say “It’s all good!”. I chose to smile and readjust my bags on the floor. I looked down and realized my computer was GONE! I immediately jumped up and rushed to retrieve it from the stand where I had left it and ran back (in my heels!) in enough time to jump on my flight.
I made a wrong turn. I set my computer down and forgot it. Because I was willing to FEEL the “bump” from the universe I was able to get my computer and make my flight. Had I reacted in ANY other way I would have either left my computer behind or missed my flight. How many times have you made a decision or choice that has caused crap to show up in your life? Take 100% responsibility for you actions and let the universe guide you.
In every situation you have 2 choices:
- Listen to the messages from the universe and discover how it is guiding you
- Ignore the signs, get angry and blame everyone or everything else
2015 was the year of LETTING GO and now the universe is asking you to step into calling and become the leader of your LIFE! It is time to awaken to your inner light and intuitive intelligence. Are you going to pay attention?
3. The PAIN won’t stop until you LISTEN
Around the same time that I lost my home seven years ago I also had some serious health issues emerge. I had hypothyroidism, adrenal fatigue, digestive issues and severe skin problems. I know lots of fancy words for basically feeling like crap and my body revolting against me! It came from years of eating and exercise disorders or SO I THOUGHT!
Fast forward to the last few years. I had completely healed my hormone and digestive issues and was doing a great job keeping my skin under control until late 2014~!
Last year I experience severe shoulder injury from falling down a flight of stairs and my psoriasis came back full blown on my HANDS and spots on my legs. NO matter what therapy I did or what I tried to do the injury persisted and so did the skin disorder. I tried Theta-healing, acupuncture, chiropractic, changed my diet, eliminated foods, added foods, took supplements. I tried EVERYTHING. It was until I started listening to my inner guru and LISTENED to what my body was trying to tell me did these go away. It wasn’t until I took ACTION and changed some relationships (with myself and others), changed feelings and ways of being that I actually began to feel better.
Your BODY is intelligent way beyond our conscious mind. It is a portal for the unconscious to send us signals that something in your life is OFF. PAIN and disease are a way for your “bodies” to communicate this message. It WON’T go away until you listen and take action. It may change form until it becomes so bad that you have no CHOICE but to listen.
4. Shouting does NOT get you heard
I come from a family of screamers. We show love by raising our voices. That’s how I was raised. I didn’t know back then that it was LOVE but I do now. Unfortunately I brought that habit of yelling with me into my life and relationships.
I would control it by not speaking up, not using my voice or saying I was “fine” until one day I would burst! I would be so angry and frustrated and feel so unheard that I would yell and then I would feel guilty and go back to my non-communicative ways. Yelling to get my point across never worked, even though I was louder I became mute to the ears I was communicating to.
One of the gifts of this lesson is that I have learned how to communicate clearly and use my voice in a way that is powerful and loving. Each of us have patterns that are unhealthy or do things that come from love that cause others to mute or shut down. How can you change your behaviors so you can be heard?
5. Say YES and figure it out LATER!
I was on the phone recently with a client who turned down a potential for new business because she didn’t have a package to offer them that they wanted. How many opportunities are you passing up everyday because you can’t say YES and figure it out.
When I decided to do my first Pure BodyLove Conference in 2014 I had NO IDEA what I was getting myself in to. I just said yes and then figured it out. I have had clients come to me and they want to work in a certain way and I don’t have a specific program to offer them. I said YES and then I created it!
Saying YES and figuring it out later has afforded me travel, income and friendships beyond my wildest imagination. I have again said YES to some amazing things that are bigger than me and I will figure it out! I want to share how I say YES. You ready?
You are standing at the brink of something you cannot even imagine. Filled with magic, wonder and the possibility of freedom. Give into your reckless abandon. Learn to fly. Leap into the mist. See where you will go. Saying yes to possibility is saying yes to your truest self, your spirit. “Shaheen Miro”
I have decided to share about my confessions and lessons is a 3 Part Masterclass Series: Thrive or Hide: How to gain Pure BodyLove to become the next sought after leader. If you feel like something is holding you back from leader of your life then join me!
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